• Do you worry about how much someone else drinks/uses?

• Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking /using?

• Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking/using?

• Do you feel that if the drinker/user cared about you, he or she would stop drinking/using to please you?

• Do you blame the drinker's/user's behavior on his or her companions?

• Are plans frequently upset or cancelled or meals delayed because of the drinker/user?

• Do you make threats such as, "if you don't stop drinking/using, I'll leave you"?

• Do you secretly try to smell the drinker's breath or observe signs of using?

• Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set of a drinking or using bout?

• Have you been hurt or embarrassed by the drinker's/user's behavior?

• Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking/using?

• Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?

• Do you search for hidden alcohol or drugs?

• Do you ever ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking or using?

• Have you refused social invitations out of fear of anxiety?

• Do you feel like a failure because you can't control the drinking/using?

• Do you think that if the drinker/user stopped drinking/using, your problems would be solved?

• Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker/user?

• Do you feel angry, confused, or depressed most of the time?

• Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?

If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, then you are eligible for help from support groups. Most groups hold one to several meetings every week in your area and all are welcome to come and receive and give hope to others. If you have questions about these sevices, please feel free to contact us.